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On Tuesday morning Josh woke me up at 5am with, “Honey! HONEY! I just got a text! June 13th!”

And just to fill you in, what he meant is, we have a court date in Uganda, and it’s June 13th.

That’s right! We’re going to get our kids! In less than 2 weeks!

Of course after he told me that I couldn’t go back to sleep. I laid there for about 10 minutes freaking out. And then went downstairs and got some coffee and continued to freak out. And eventually gave myself a talking to and stopped freaking out and started praying.

And that pretty much sums up the last few days. Freak out. Pray. Freak out. Pray.

Wednesday night was a leadership meeting at our church, which was honestly a welcome distraction from all the planning, laundry, list-making, packing, childcare organizing, etc. And Josh opened the meeting leading us in singing that wonderful old melody, Turn Your Eyes Upon Jesus. What a sweet, sweet reminder when all my eyes want to do is turn to all of the things I need to do.

And there IS a lot to do.

Josh has been busily pulling all of our paperwork together. He has, bless him, kept me completely out of the loop on this. I honestly don’t understand anything. He tells me where to sign and that’s pretty much it. I’m pretty sure he’ll be an expert on adopting from Uganda when all this is said and done.

Meanwhile, I’ve been preparing for a trip to Uganda with an unspecified end date while trying to coordinate with family about who will watch Reagan and Charlie while we’re gone. Sometimes I work furiously all day and sometimes I sit and stare at the wall.  I’m not kidding.

BUT, all of these earthly, stressful, seemingly impossible things are so temporary. And our Father in heaven who has carried us thus far is eternal, and good, and all-knowing, and He loves us. Even typing that gives me such peace.

I’ll be updating in the weeks to come and while we’re in Uganda! But while you wait…

Turn your eyes upon Jesus
Look full in His wonderful face
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim
In the light of His glory and grace

Adoption Update

May
2013
08

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So I’ve shared all of the how-we-got-here details of this story but have said basically nothing about the where-we-go-from-here details. Which is partially because we don’t have all the particulars yet. From what I can understand this is pretty typical for the adoption process. However, I’ll share with you what we DO know.

The children are biological siblings, a brother and sister. She just turned 5 and he just turned 3. They have been at the orphanage for about 8 months.

If all goes according to plan, Josh and I will be headed to Entebbe, Uganda in the month of June. We don’t have specific travel dates yet, but this general time frame seems pretty certain.

When we go, we’ll be staying in Uganda for anywhere from 3 to 4 weeks to sort out all of the details, appear before a judge, gain custody, etc. We will get the kids when we arrive and they will stay with us in a guest house for the duration of our visit.

In God’s sovereign goodness, this happens to be the year that my husband, Josh, has his sabbatical. Our church is SO good to its pastors, and provides a 2 month period of extended rest from daily ministry demands every 7 years. While we had planned to travel quite a bit during this time, God had a better plan, and we will have 2 months to adjust to our new family life, beginning with our trip to Uganda.

How can you help?

I have been blessed beyond words by the outpouring of encouragement and support we’ve received from our family and friends over the past several months. Almost everyone I’ve shared this story with, once they’ve exhausted their questions, has asked “How can I help?” God has been meeting our needs left and right in some pretty amazing ways. However, here are the two main ways you can help, if you are so inclined 🙂

You can pray. Pray, pray, pray. God can do “abundantly more than we can ask or even imagine,” and I really do believe that this is the most important thing to be done in the coming months. Some specific prayer requests…
+Pray for the children we are to adopt. They are still in the orphanage, and we ask God to protect and care for them as we wait to go get them.
+Pray for the other orphans and the two women who tirelessly care for them all. There are more than 20 children at this orphanage, and they ALL need homes, parents, love and affection.
+Pray for our family as we prepare for this. The girls are excited, although their understanding is obviously limited, but I’m sure that the time we are gone will be very hard on them (they miss me when I go take a shower, soooo….) When Josh and I go over there, they will be staying with family. Pray for my parents and brothers and their wives, Josh’s parents and his sister, who will be sharing the bulk of the burden while we are gone.
+Pray for the transition. When you are about to have a baby, there is no way to know how things will go. Will the baby be colicky? Will the baby sleep and eat well? Will the baby have allergies? As the baby grows, what will his/her personality be like? The unanswered questions we have going into this are similar. But what DO you know about that unborn baby? I will love him. I will love her. The same is true for these children. We don’t know what to expect of the transition, but we are trusting God to be working in and through it as we love them.

You can give financially. Again, God was sovereign and gracious in that we were able to cover the initial, up-front costs of the adoption with inheritance money we recently received. However, we are trying to raise the rest so that we can come out of this process debt free. We have already received many generous gifts from some loving and supportive friends, and are about halfway to our goal. If you’d like to give, you can use the pay-pal account linked on the right hand column of this website.

And can I ask you to do something else if you are reading this? It’s kind of scary. It will make you uncomfortable. But I’m asking anyway.

Ask God how He wants YOU to care for the orphans of this world. This looks different for everyone, but I think orphan care is for every Christian to consider. Maybe that just means you pray for and support us or another family who is adopting. Maybe it means you get involved in supporting an orphanage. Maybe it means fostering. And maybe, just maybe, He’ll call you to make some orphans your forever children, too.

Josh and I know that we could have kept the details of this experience to ourselves. We could have figured everything out on our own. But 1) We don’t think that’s the way it works in the church, and 2) We want our story to inspire others to consider doing the same.

So, that’s how you can help, and I promise, as soon as I know more, you will know more!